Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Getting some perspective

I thank you for your advice on my dilemma. I got the call from my brother while I was preparing for Bunco (I cooked a small Thanksgiving dinner in 1.5 hours... I was a little busy). And my DH goes elsewhere during Bunco night so I didn't get a chance to really discuss it with him much since he didn't get home until 10:00... and there was more important news... one of my neighbors has breast cancer and that weighed heavily on my mind most of the night.

Ok, getting back to my story... So I didn't get much of a chance to discuss it with him on Monday, and Tuesday I had a bunch of work related stuff and didn't get home till about 9:00 and had to call my mom which always takes too long. So, I didn't really get a chance to discuss it with DH again till this morning. And this is basically what he said:
I got to thinking, and if it were my family and they wanted us to be there, they would have called us ahead of time and checked to make sure that we could come. Since they didn't do that, I'm not going to worry about it.
That makes sense. Perfect sense. He's completely right. If it's a big deal to you that I can't come then why didn't you check with me ahead of time? It's not like we decided to do this a week ago... we've had tickets for nearly three months. We're also visiting DH's aunt and uncle and one of his friends got engaged last week and we're meeting his fiancee. It's not fair that we should have to give up all that. We weren't important enough to ask when they were planning it. Really, why did I let this stress me out so much?

I love DH, he makes sense of stuff when I'm running around all panicky and irrational and cuts through it with a clear perspective. And it doesn't hurt that his perspective agrees with us going to the game.


Anonymous said...

I'm glad you guys chose to stick with your original plans. Your DH is right, if it was that important to them that you be there, they should have checked with you when planning it. Try to let go of any guilt. And, enjoy the game!

kMo said...

Don't you love when awesome husbands do that? It's the best.