Wednesday, April 29, 2009

1 down, 1 to go

Back before me and my gall bladder parted ways I often used it as a cover for my RE appointments. Very convenient and I didn't have to explain myself to nosey people. The only downside is that some people must have thought that the gall bladder thing was a really serious issue since I went to the Dr. so much.

Well, now I don't have that excuse but I keep taking off work for the Drs. anyhow. Some people think I'm still having gall bladder issues or something serious.

So the problem happened because I knew that if the last cycle failed that I would have to go in for a u/s on Mon or Tues of this week, and I knew that I had a ton of crap already scheduled for Tuesday. I had to tell one of my managers that I might not be able to make our meeting cause I had to go to the Drs. again.

I got in Monday, no meeting conflicts.

But Tuesday my manager stops by my office and checks if I will be able to come to the meeting or if I have to go to the Drs. still. I say that I went yesterday. So he asks, "Did everything go ok?" I got a funny weird grin on my face cause I'm thinking that he REALLY doesn't want to know how it went. I realize that it might be time to fill him in. Especially because my old boss will be retiring at the end of June and this guy will take old boss' division manager responsibilities and another manager will be taking the old boss' office manager responsibilities. So actually I need to have a talk with the other guy too.

But it wasn't a good time to fill in my manager at that moment so I told him I'd tell him how it went later. Evil smile still on my face.

So at the end of the day, I sucked it up and went in to his office and closed the door and told him. I like this manager (most of the time) and he's a joker and quick with the comebacks so telling him was mixed with a lot of laughter which made things easier. This is the guy that just announced his wife is pregnant with #3, by the way. He admitted they'd never experienced infertility but he knew people that had and had sympathy for them. He also asked a surprising amount of questions about it all (nothing too personal) but I appreciated his interest.

I let him know that I don't treat it as a secret because that would mean that I was ashamed of it or something, but I don't tend to talk about it at work since it's not a topic that comes up ever.

I told him 1 in 6 couples experience infertility and that it's NIAW too. He didn't believe my 1 in 6 number, but I happen to know that every female in my office (all 4 of us) has personally experienced IF in one way or another. Given the number of people in my office, that's more than 1 in 6.

I'd say it went really well over all. Now I just have to do it again with the other manager. I don't like the fact that so many of the people I work with will now know about my IF, but most of them are men and most men will disavow knowledge of "female problems," so I don't think it they will be feeding the rumor mill.


Celia said...

I am so lucky that my boss has PCOS, she is always so good about IF stuff.

Michelle said...

I remember having to do that when I worked. My supervisor was gay, and it was a very awkward talk. They thought I was dying or something with the amount of doctor appts I was having.

Anonymous said...

You sound a lot like me, really don't want my "old ute" to be the topic of conversation. Thanks for breaking the news though, it makes me think I really should fill my employees in, but I just don't want to quite yet.

Hillary said...

Hopefully it will just make things a tad easier to have him on your side and in the know. You did a great job telling him! :)

Anonymous said...

I'm glad that the conversation with your manager went well. I can imagine it could have been a little awkward.