Friday, July 10, 2009

Don't spill the beans

I've had a lot of anxiety about telling my bosses that I'm pregnant. I'm not planning on doing it until about 14 weeks, but I constantly find myself in situations where I'm tempted to tell.

Several weeks ago, me and Old Boss (still was the actual boss at the time) went to see a client about 3 hours away... with my excessive thirst (and subsequent bathroom needs) and 6 hours trapped in a car with nothing to talk about, I was really worried that it might come out. I cannot tell you how proud I was of myself that I didn't let it slip that day.

But another hurdle is on the horizon: Mid Year Employee Conference, which is on Monday.

This year it will be with Old Boss and Future Boss, both of whom know about my IF. And neither seems to be suspicious that the status of anything has changed since IF happens to be a convenient cover for pregnancy (yes, I've found a use for IF).

But I've been through these conferences before and I didn't think their would be any reason to worry about spilling the beans. Except, my boss gave me a heads up list of topics to review that are not on the company's standard form. And one of them, my professional certification, will be directly impacted by having a baby.

FYI: Engineers have to go through an 'apprenticeship' period and take a test before they can become licensed engineers. Licensing is important because it makes you much more valuable ($$$) but your liability is huge (you don't want to be the person that sealed the plans for a collapsed bridge).

My first chance to take the test is spring of 2010 but the version of the test I want to take is only given in the fall, so I would have taken the test in fall 2010. Except, I'm planning on having a ~8month old when that comes around and I can't imagine that I will be able to work, parent, lactate, and study for a test that soon.

So if I'm honest about the test schedule, I will have to tell them that I'm looking at 2011 and then they will want to know why. And I don't know how I can keep from spilling the beans other than to say "I'd rather not talk about it at this time." Something tells me that won't fly. They want me licensed ASAP. I need to have a good excuse.


Michelle said...

Yeah that sounds like it would be hard to keep from saying it now. I hope you can think of a good answer to cover you a few more weeks.

Lucy said...

That's tough. DH is an engineer, so I'm familiar with this.

Can you say that's an okay plan for now, and then update it once you are ready to share with them? Fall 2010 is still a ways away? It will be a change from what they expected, but it sounds like they're already expecting it, so a change now, versus in a few months, would that matter?

Amanda said...

Lucy, you've got a good plan there, but I don't know if I can convincingly pull off the lie. I've always had a hard time lying.

Celia said...

The way to lie well, is to practice. Believe what you are saying.

Don't over explain, because that tips people off.

Sophie A. said...

That's a sticky situation. I don't know if I could've kept my mouth shut for this long :D. It's good you've thought about it. though. I'm somewhat familiar with what you're talking about because my stepdad is an engineer. I have no idea what I'd do in this kinda situation, let us know how/what you decide to tell them.