I don't have time to do a long post on this but I am having a lot of trouble finding a doula.
Right now I'm talking to a brand new doula and I'm worried that she's the only person I will find with availability.
She has never given birth herself and has only attended one labor during her doula training... but has read EVERY BOOK! (note the thick sarcasm at the end there)
We got disconnected last night and we never got to her fee or anything. I imagine she will ask ~$300.
The whole point of getting a doula for me was to have someone there that knew what they were doing, and had experience, and could provide reassurance. I worry that hiring her will be not helpful, or a waste, or maybe even annoying. The labor process is scary to me, I was hoping this would help to take some of the fear out of it.
But it may come down to her or nothing! Is it better to have a potentially useless doula over nothing?
And I'm really down a creek without a paddle here. I have no female relatives or friends that I would want or trust to fill this role for me. I feel really alone.
Anyone got an opinion? What would you do?