Friday, August 6, 2010

I am destroying my child

Yes. He's doomed.

We took M for his 6 month well visit yesterday. I would have probably taken him into the pediatrician's already this week due to his severely decreased appetite that I was blaming on the teething, but I held off since the well visit was scheduled.

And it turns out the both of the poor child's ears are infected. Yeah, that would probably explain the loss of appetite and crying over the weekend. Poor baby... glad I didn't fool around and went to the tylenol. But seriously, I thought breastfeeding was supposed to help keep these stupid ear infections at bay. It must be those bottles of expressed milk he gets at daycare. I'm just a bad person for putting my baby in daycare where he learns things and has fun and interacts with other babies I guess.

But the not eating thing has really had me concerned this week. His appetite dropped off over the weekend and because of that I haven't been able to pump much all week. And he's not eating what I have been pumping at daycare, and then he's not eating much at night either. It's just very concerning.

I told his ped this and he said, "Well, he's got plenty of reserves."

What a jerk. Yeah, I know, my baby is big (and HEALTHY). He weighed in at 23 lbs and 14 oz and was 28.25 in long (97+ and 95th percentiles, respectively).

So I said back, "Well, it's really a matter of dehydration."

I'm no dr, but I shouldn't have had to say that and I think he was kinda being an ass with his statement.

Let me tell you how much fluid my nearly 24lb baby has been taking during the day this week:

Monday: 6.5 oz in 9 hours
Tuesday: 6.5 oz in 9 hours
Wednesday: 4 oz in 8 hours (picked up a little early because of the pictures)
Thursday: 1.5 oz in 7 hours (Got there late because of the well visit)
Friday: 0 oz in 4.5 hours (I left work early and took him home)

(Does my concern seem unfounded to you?)

I'm no dr, but that does not seem like enough fluid at all. My ped is an asshole. Me and daycare have been doing everything we could this week, but he just feels so bad. Even though my boss kinda gave me hell for leaving early to get him I would much rather take it from him than take a dehydrated child to the emergency room.

But also, my ped gave me more flak for not feeding him solids yet. What is this guy's problem?! The child just turned 6 months. We have been trying, but we aren't forcing. You see, by not feeding him solids at 4 months, I have ruined my child. He will never eat solids. I will be breast feeding him until he is 5. I am a terrible mother. I should hold off nursing him and make sure he is good and hungry and then force him to eat. By not doing all of this, I'm destroying my child, according to my pediatrician. (Although letting him get dehydrated is A-OK, you know, since he's fat, and being fat is just as good as taking in fluids.) God forgive me for trying to make food fun and for letting my baby decide if he wants to eat or not.

Anyhow, we are back on antibiotics. It seems to be helping a little so far. Hopefully he's back at capacity soon.

8 comments:

Kate said...

Sorry you had to deal with the shitty comments from that jerk. Of course you're right! Hope he feels better soon.

Michelle said...

Poor guy! I hope he gets relief soon. I would definitely be worried about dehydration.
I would switch drs. He sounds like a total jerk! I can't believe they are giving you grief about not starting solids! My friend got that for starting BEFORE 6 months.
I don't think that the bottles for daycare would cause the infections...K was on bottles and never had one. They claim he has wider ear canals so maybe that's why he didn't get them...Either way, you are not a bad mother for him being in day care or for him having bottles. You clearly put him first and know more about his day to day than any working mom I know. Heck, my friend never even asks or cares how much her kid eats daily for me. All she asks is when he last ate. And any concerns I have, she basically thinks I'm over protective and nuts.
You are a great mom! Hope the little guy feels better really soon!

Celia said...

Eww. I would break up with the pediatrician over that. Poor M. Dude, you are a great Mom. Being home does not make you a better Mom. MY son is hoarse from screaming and thisclose to losing his little voice. Nice. I feel like an asshole when all I have to do is pick him up and he will be happy. Peter slept 40 minutes today between 5 a.m. and 10 p.m. What is the big damn deal with solid food?? All these doctors have some kind obsession with it.

Lucy said...

Good for you for standing up to the pedi and doing what you know is best for M. I'm already displeased with pedis and how they push formula at the first sign the baby is not gaining weight. Seriously, ours was talking formula at the first visit after the hospital. She got me all worried, but two days later, he'd gained really well, and four days later the same, so she stopped mentioning formula, but what is the deal??? Why aren't they more supportive of breastfeeding, while still making sure the kid is healthy? I don't get it!

Lucy said...

Good for you for standing up to the pedi and doing what you know is best for M. I'm already displeased with pedis and how they push formula at the first sign the baby is not gaining weight. Seriously, ours was talking formula at the first visit after the hospital. She got me all worried, but two days later, he'd gained really well, and four days later the same, so she stopped mentioning formula, but what is the deal??? Why aren't they more supportive of breastfeeding, while still making sure the kid is healthy? I don't get it!

Sophie said...

That's terrible! That comment seems ridiculous, i too would be concerned about dehydration--babies get dehydrated so much easier (especially when they're sick and need extra fluids!). My family is kind of obsessed with tea (chamomile), do you know if it'd be ok to give him that when/if he doesn't want milk, just to make sure he stays hydrated?

birdsandsquirrels said...

Poor baby, more ear infections. Ugh. He must feel so bad to not be eating that much. Your ped is a jerk. I would definitely be worried about dehydration with those tiny amounts of milk he is drinking.

And what's with the food pushing? That is ridiculous! I'm so glad you are listening to Michael and going at his pace. We have gone really slowly with adding foods, and at 7.5 months, she really only eats 4 things regularly, all stage 1 or home cooked and pureed single ingredient foods. She hates rice cereal and oatmeal, so once a week or so I try a little bit again, but I'm not going to push it.
Our doc gave us a bunch of shit for giving her fruit at all. He wanted us to give only veggies at first, and guess what, she hates green veggies completely.

Can you find a new ped? Maybe go back to McSoothy?

Amanda said...

I would LOVE to go back to McSoothy, if it weren't a logistical nightmare. If I didn't work and had all the time in the world to spend driving up there and waiting on her (she's always so backed up), I would. The pediatric group I take him to is sooo convenient, and they have a nursing room and a great play area... I'm open to trying new drs out within the group, but I don't want to go back to McSoothy for him unless I have to.